Posted on Sept. 21 2009 by Kate Fagan Taylor, executive director.
This morning at Queenswood, we felt a tang in the morning air, and heard the soft honking of geese drifting across the sky. As I walked into the building I met Sister Mary Ellen, one of our garden volunteers, taking her cart and rake in hand to begin cleaning leaves out of flower beds. With just a few more weeks of warmth to enjoy summer's blossoms, we'll soon be pulling on sweaters and thinking about the coming holidays. In my family, we're just starting to think about where we will have Thanksgiving dinner, and who will cook which part of the feast.
Each family has their own recipes and flavours of Thanksgiving. For one friend of mine, it's sweet potatoes, carmelized with marshmallows. For me, turkey stuffing (which translates as "dressing" for some families) only tastes like real stuffing when it's made according to my grandmother's recipe, accompanied by her classic Cape Cod cranberry sauce.
Thanksgiving recipes are about more than flavour-- they are about memory, love, connection and belonging. They help us think about life recipes for happiness and love.
I still remember a retreat I took a decade ago with a spiritual director who advised me to begin each period of prayer and meditation in a very specific way: by opening my heart to feelings of gratitude. As days went by, each time I did so, it seemed I could feel my heart physically grow warmer and open like a flower to the warm light of love. My experience on this retreat seemed to leave my heart flooded with love, more open, bigger, and more able to embrace life. This experience of gratitude continues to be a gift that is always there, available at any moment, if I open my heart to receive it.
Like all good recipes, just writing about this one is making me hungry!
As the scents and sights of autumn begin to enfold us, I hope I'll keep remembering to enjoy the feast of thanksgiving every day.